Stages and Methods of
Coach Approach Parenting
Coach Approach Parenting is a collection of 4 methods implemented during 4 stages. That's how I keep my promise
Approach: Underlying beliefs and theories about the
An approach informs the method.
Method: Systematic way of
A method creates predictability in outcome.
An approach without a method identifies a
situation to be handled but it takes a clear method to get it handled.
Stage 1 - Clarify
Purpose and Promise
Declaring your parenting purpose and the
basic promises you've made.
· Values in Action Method – Step 1
o Create a short list of your most important
· Parenting Promises Method—Steps 1 and
o You’ll answer two questions:
o “I know I’m doing it right when
o “I can do _____ better if I do/have
Stage 2 - Personalize
Identify the skills and resources needed to
achieve your objective.
· Values in Action Method – Step 2
o Find the personal meaning of each
· Parenting Promises Method - Steps 3, 4, and
o Experimenting with strategy with real-time
o Learn to improve by evaluating results
· Influence by Design Method - Steps 1 and
o Plan the supportive environments that help
you become the person who fulfills her parenting promise.
o Learn how to make decisions quickly and
consistently regardless the situation.
Stage 3 - Expand
Create measures to evaluate short-term and
· Values in Action – Step 3
o Connect values together to unlock clarity
and power (Venn Diagram)
· Parenting Promises Method – Steps 5 and
o Create an overall strategy for parenting on
o Tailor communication skills
· Influence by Design Method – Steps 3 and
o Evaluate personal environments for
o Compare present conditions to what’s
· Morning Peacemaker Method – Step
o Translate fulfillment of your promises into
a daily focus
Stage 4 – Design
Simplify and upgrade energy, support, and
· Influence By Design Method—Steps 5 through
o Identify and ZAP! irritations and obstacles
as you experiment adding support and energy into your world.
· Parenting Promises Method—Steps 8 and
o Expand your awareness about the effect your
personal values, beliefs, and past experiences have on the actions you take.
· Morning Peacemaker Method—Steps 2 through
o Implement the method that gradually
transfers responsibility to your child.